Another Way to Look at Decision-Making
Here’s another way to look at decision-making that will free you up to move from where you are to where you want to be — three words: Personal Mission Statement. I know the initials are PMS … but if you fail to develop a Personal Mission Statement, whether you are male or female, you will experience the same symptoms: irritability, bloating and even some mild pain. So get yourself together. … Now!
You might want to create a separate Personal Mission Statement for each aspect of your life, whether that is work, home, spiritual matters, parenthood — you get the idea. Again, it’s OK to finish your PMS on one aspect before moving on to another; however, you’ll find that the more similarity there is between statements for each area of your life, the more successful and easier your climb up the staircase will be.
Questions to Help Sort Through Your Clutter
What is your most important focus in life? (Quickly now, don’t think too much the first time through …)
- What verbs allow you to take action toward this focus? (Think about what you do the most…) Character Trait: Whom do you admire most?
- What character traits do they have? (He is….or She is…)
- Your gifts: What are your greatest talents? (e.g., Abilities that come easy and you enjoy)
- Your soapbox: What would you like to “teach the world”? (This sometimes is your “pet peeve”)
- Current Civic Service Venues: (Where or to whom do you already donate extra effort?)
You may find yourself waking up in the middle of the night thinking, “Oh … that’s the word I want!” Sorry about that, but it will lessen as you get closer to your truths. Keep a notepad and pencil by your bed so you can write things down. Those middle-of-the-night revelations are often gone by morning.
Putting it all together:
OK. Now, try plugging in the words you came up with. This is not a hard and fast format for your sentence relating to your personal mission statement, but rather a starting place. You’ll find you need to put two words in one spot or change the tense. Just write it out a few times until it feels comfortable … well maybe a little uncomfortable. Sometimes seeing your purpose in writing has side effects like dizziness.
To ____(2)____ly ____(1)____ ____(4)____ through ____(3)____ing at ____(5)_____.
You see. Now, you can no longer waver, be wishy-washy or sit on the fence. You now have your Personal Mission Statement outlined, right in front of you. Look at it again; that is what you are supposed to be doing. Of course, your PMS will evolve, but when you are on the right track, it will fit you like a little black dress at the end of a successful diet.
Your Personal Mission Statement Completed, the Good News
Now that you know the parameters of your journey, all future decisions (with any weight) will be non-issues. (It may not help you decide whether you want strawberry or vanilla ice cream for dessert … but if the little black dress is more than an analogy, you might want to try a celery stick instead anyway.)
“Do I jump now or later?” becomes “Have I satisfied my PMS components here on this step?”
“Why am I unhappy?” becomes “Which of my PMS components am I ignoring?”
“Is this the right decision?” becomes a moot question.
From: The Staircase Principle Applied to The Salesperson
© 2006 Terri Dunevant